There was a time while I was growing up when we had an aquarium and I remember learning something very interesting about fish. An individual fish will only grow to be as big as the space allotted to it allows. Fish have a space buffer. Let’s say you have a 30 gallon tank and you fill it with 10 fish. Now let’s say you have another 30 gallon tank and fill it with 5 of the same kind of fish. The fish in the tank with only 5 fish will grow bigger than the fish in the tank with 10. Why? Because a fish can only grow as big as its parameters will allow.
Let’s look at the ministry field with the same principle. We all have our ministry fields. We all have our callings. Let’s say our calling is to minister to a specific group of people and through our ministry, as it is in most ministries, those people will grow into whatever their ministry is going to be when they become leaders. But are we reducing their space buffer? If we limit the experiences of those in our service to only be within the parameters of our personal ministry, they will only grow to possibly fill our shoes one day. Maybe God’s plan for them is bigger than our shoes. Maybe God’s plan for them takes them out of our city. Maybe God’s plan for them takes them out of our country. Maybe God’s plan for them takes them beyond our understanding and reach.
Are we showing them enough of the BIG PICTURE that one day they will be able to find their place in it?
YaYaGracie's Meaningful Ramblings 
I do know that the word Nicolaitan in Revelation means laity conquerer. The ministry is not allowed to flurish. People are not allowed to think for themselves, and this goes on not just in churches. It can go on in small groups. Even one person can be a mind slave to another and Jesus can break it and help the slave through the time of the bad master. Many are brought to discouragement, blame God, and are spiritualy abused. I give scriptures now: And also Love forgives and believes all things, and God allows slavery situations at many times for reason in the slave that need adressed ( So much slave, under slave, under slave, wanting to get higher on the ladder or at least find some way to not be without any strength but to cry, which if to God, does many times bring a break in broken relationship status) and God Loves the slave masters too.
Ephesians 4:10-12
King James Version (KJV)
10 He that descended is the same also that ascended up far above all heavens, that he might fill all things.)
11 And he gave some, apostles; and some, prophets; and some, evangelists; and some, pastors and teachers;
12 For the perfecting of the saints, for the work of the ministry, for the edifying of the body of Christ:
Revelation 2:16
15 So hast thou also them that hold the doctrine of the Nicolaitanes, which thing I hate.
Colossians 3:18-21
King James Version (KJV)
18 Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as it is fit in the Lord.
19 Husbands, love your wives, and be not bitter against them.
20 Children, obey your parents in all things: for this is well pleasing unto the Lord.
21 Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.